Have you ever had good intentions, but they were perceived as bad ones? I rememer one time while visiting a friend in Utah, I thought I was helping out with laundry one day and switched loads for someone. I took their clothes out of the dryer and hung them up and put what was in the washer in the dryer. Later on, I found out that I had ruined her laundry because she didn’t want it in the dryer. I felt so awful, but I honestly was just trying to help out. My good intentions were now taken as something mean and evil and I truly didn’t mean it that way at all.
Once I asked someone at work if they were ok, because they looked like they were having a bad day. She told me I had totally offended her and that I should never speak to her again. GAH! I only meant concern. I went into the bathroom and cried all day.
When someone get’s upset with you over something like that, there really isn’t a whole lot you can do about it. Misunderstandings happen all the time, all you can do is say you are sorry and pray that the other person will forgive you. It isn’t up to you at all at that point but totally in the other person’s hands.
I hate when this happens, but it happens all the time. I say the wrong things, do the wrong things, ask the wrong things, offer the wrong things. I have learned that you just can’t stress about it.
People who know you will understand that it was not a bad intention, people who don’t won’t. There is nothing you can do. Say you are sorry and try to move on. The only problem is that now I don’t help with laundry anymore. If I do, I will ask first. It has kind of hardened me to be helpful or sensitive to others in this way. I am a little tip toey in relationships now. Do I invite? Do I call? Do I try to help out with this or that? Ugh. Life is just too short.